How to Go with the Flow: The Art of Letting Things Happen

‍When we think of people as having a “flow” we often imagine someone who is in sync with the world around them, someone who can react and respond to situations fluidly and intuitively. In other words, it’s the kind of person who can go with the flow. If you have ever seen skateboarders in action you will know what we mean. Great skateboarders don’t just stand there on their board waiting for something to happen – they make things happen and flow with whatever is coming at them until something even more exciting comes along and they change direction again. They let things come to them, not by being passive but by being ready, alert, willing and able to follow through on whatever opportunity presents itself.

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Know When to Go with the Flow

If you’re always waiting for the perfect opportunity to come along, you’ll likely be waiting for the rest of your life. The truth is that many things happen every day that are probably not the best situations for you. But the fact is that sometimes those things flow naturally, so when they do go with the flow. If you want to be the kind of person who can go with the flow, you need to accept that not every opportunity is going to be a good one, but every opportunity is a chance to learn and grow. For example, if you’re at a networking event and the person next to you asks you what you do for a living, you don’t have to start with your whole elevator pitch. You can just say, “I’m in sales.” Most people won’t ask you to go into any more detail than that, and if they do, you can go into a short pitch. But if they don’t ask you to expand, simply let the subject drop. Don’t try to force the issue.

Breathe and Be in the Moment

When you’re trying to go with the flow, you can’t let your mind wander off into the future or the past. You have to be fully in the moment, where the action is. When you’re fully in the moment, it’s all about the now. If you’re trying to plan the future, you’re not fully in the moment. If you are trying to solve an issue from the past, you’re not fully in the moment. When you’re fully in the moment, you’re able to truly appreciate what you have right now. When you have this mindset, you are able to go with the flow with a lot more ease. Your mental health and wellness should be your number one priority.

Don’t Hold On Too Tight

When you’re trying to go with the flow, you don’t want to hold on too tight. If you do, you’ll miss out on a lot of great opportunities that might not be exactly what you’re looking for but would still be great for you and your life. When you hold on too tight, you might miss out on opportunities that are just right for you. You can’t go with the flow if you’re not willing to let go a little bit. Letting go doesn’t mean that you’re being careless or irresponsible. It just means that you’ve got everything you need right now. You don’t need to be clinging tightly to your past or trying to desperately hold on to some future outcome.

Let Go of Expectations

You can’t go with the flow if you’re always trying to bend the world around you to your will. Sure, you need to know what you want and have goals, but you also have to be willing to let go of your expectations. In fact, expectations are a big part of what holds you back from going with the flow. You might be expecting a certain outcome to happen, or you might be expecting people to behave a certain way. If you don’t let go of these expectations, you are going to struggle to go with the flow.

Always Be Prepared

You can’t go with the flow if you’re not prepared for what is happening. If you’re not prepared, you’ll get knocked off course as soon as the first unexpected thing happens. If you want to go with the flow, you have to be prepared for what is happening around you and inside of you. When unexpected opportunities come your way, you need to be ready to jump on them. When you’re prepared, you’re ready for anything that comes your way, and that makes you a far more attractive and interesting person.


When you’re going with the flow, life can be easy and simple. When you’re trying to control everything, life can be stressful and complicated. When you can simply go with the flow, you’ll find that life gets a lot easier, and you’ll be a lot happier. Go with the flow, and you’ll have an easier time in life and you’ll be a lot happier for it. You’ll be able to let go of unnecessary stress, and you’ll be able to enjoy life a lot more.